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Linda D. States

Sacramento Family Law

A single factor could predict divorce

Hope is an important component in determining whether a California marriage is going to last. This was one of the findings of a study conducted by the University of Washington in 1992. It found that participants who were disillusioned or disappointed about their marriages were likely to be divorced within three years of the study taking place. Couples therapists have also noted that those who are disillusioned with their relationships are likely to get divorced.

This is because a marriage takes effort, and those who are not hopeful about the relationship are unlikely to put in that work. This is true in cases where both partners are not happy or in cases where only one is unhappy. Typically, unhappy spouses are disappointed that their marriages did not turn out the way they thought they would. Generally, once a person loses hope, they become resigned to the fact that the relationship is over.

Preparing for a new school year after divorce

When California parents consider divorce, they often think about the complex ways that the end of the marriage can affect their children. As the back-to-school season dawns, the first new academic year after divorce can add additional confusion and stress to a period that is already full of anxiety, excitement and anticipation. When children are going back and forth between different homes, their parents can work together and separately to provide academic support. In addition, both parents can help their kids to feel loved and supported, especially when the divorce has included problems with communication and information sharing.

Planning a schedule can be particularly important as kids go back to school after a divorce. Whether child custody is jointly shared or one parent has primary custody, understanding the children's schedule around the school year can make everyone's lives easier. It is good for both parents to clarify how the schedule can be maintained. Some people may use scheduling services like Our Family Wizard while others will opt for less formal solutions like a Google calendar shared to various addresses. In either case, it is important that both parents and the children have access to the calendar and can anticipate upcoming plans.

Millenials and prenuptial agreements

According to the results of a survey conducted by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, over 50 percent of responding attorneys stated that they have noticed an increase in prenuptial agreements among millennials. A prenuptial agreement can be used to protect individuals' assets should their marriage in end divorce.

The president of the organization states that millennials differ from past generations when it comes to how prenuptial agreements are viewed. Millennials tend to view prenuptial agreements as part of a business deal.

Co-parenting challenges and strategies to reduce conflict

A licensed mental health counselor has developed guidelines to help divorcing parents in California help their children during and after the process. Her advice focuses on creating environments that benefit the children and avoid conflict and divisiveness between the parents. When parents get divorced, they should accept that the children need relationships with both of them unless safety is an issue.

Working from that starting point, co-parents could develop consistent rules between their households so that children experience stable expectations about behavior. When people with different views about parenting find this task challenging, they should focus on basic standards. The establishment of largely similar rules at both homes could prevent parental arguments about how to discipline children.

Should you use social media during your divorce?

Social media is such a part of everyday life that it can be unimaginable going without it, especially during hard times. The support and connection you receive from friends, family and even strangers can be a blessing when you need it most.

When you go through a divorce, you may turn to social media to vent or seek validation, comfort and advice. However, social media also has its drawbacks, making it not the wisest place to be during this emotionally and legally vulnerable time. Anything you say or do online can become evidence against you in your divorce case.

Talking to the kids about prenuptial agreements

For some California residents who plan on getting married, the idea of getting prenuptial agreement can be a turnoff. Many see prenups as an indication that a marriage is not likely going to last. However, these agreements can be a useful tool even in a healthy marriage.

Parents should talk to their kids about prenuptial agreements before going to college. While this age may seem young, there are many reasons why the teen years could be an acceptable time. Since a typical high schooler has not yet found their future spouse, they could learn about the benefits of prenuptial agreements before getting involved in a serious relationship. Going in with the knowledge of what a prenuptial agreement does also makes one more likely to understand their rights when it is time to get married.

Divorce process includes budgeting, saving and estate planning

Divorces require people to rethink their futures and make important and sometimes long-term financial decisions. A person going through a divorce in California can expect the process to alter his or her household income and expenses. An honest assessment of the financial situation and careful planning could help a person overcome setbacks.

The development of a post-divorce budget is an essential first step. This process allows people to see exactly what their monthly bills for housing, food, transportation, insurance and utilities will be. Divorcees might need to consider debts as well. Creditors might try to collect debts that were jointly held during the marriage. People should monitor their credit reports and watch out for unexpected liabilities.

Divorce, single women and retirement

Going through a divorce can have a detrimental effect on one's finances. California residents who get a divorce are likely to need to divide their assets in half, support two households instead one for a period of time and still have to pay costly fees to their attorney. As a result, these individuals may find that they don't have enough financial assets to see them through retirement.

According to a study conducted by the Center for Retirement Research, households that have been through a divorce have a net financial wealth that is 30 percent lower than similar households that have not undergone a divorce. The results of the study also show that divorced individuals have a 5 percent greater chance of depleting their assets. However, these statistics do not seem to apply to single women.

Female breadwinners on the hook for spousal support

Female breadwinners in California are finding that spousal support may be their new reality when the dust settles from their divorce. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers survey, 45 percent of lawyers had seen an increase in female breadwinners being held responsible for alimony over the past three years. An estimated 54 percent of lawyers saw an increase in mothers who were responsible for child support.

Where in the past it might have been the man responsible for paying spousal maintenance and child support, the times have changed. Women in high-paying positions are now seeing the roles reversed as more men take on child care and stay-at-home responsibilities. According to the Pew Research, 40 percent of U.S. families have female primary breadwinners. In 1979, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in a landmark case that alimony could be the responsibility of either party, and this has affected high-earning women.

Can my ex move my kids out of state?

Just when you thought your post-divorce California life was settling into some kind of normalcy, your ex-spouse announced that (s)he just got a big promotion at work that means (s)he must move out of state. Naturally (s)he intends to take the kids with him or her. Now what?

The answer to that question depends on the following three factors:

  1. Which type of custody (s)he has
  2. Whether or not you object to the move
  3. Whether or not the two of you can come to a new agreement with regard to visitation

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